The holidays bring up different emotions for different people. For some, it brings excitement for spending time with family, having time off of work, and getting to celebrate with family traditions. For others, spending more time with family can be stressful. For some people, holidays remind us of friends and family who are no longer with us. Many of us also compare our celebrations to those we see on tv and the movies. Sometimes, we feel our own celebrations aren’t what they “should” be.
For those of whom the holidays are a stressful time (which is many people!), here are some tips for keeping calm during the holiday season.
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. When you spend time with family, think about your needs. For example, maybe your family wants to you to spend a long weekend with them. You enjoy your family, but you know that you start to struggle after spending a full day with them. That’s okay. Plan to stay one day! It’s okay to modify plans for own needs, rather to conforming to the wants of others.
If you are feeling sadness or grief over a family member who has passed, don’t try to push those feelings away. The feelings of sadness show how important that person was in your life and that you miss them. Give yourself room to feel what you need to feel. Then try to do something to honor that person’s memory.
Check in on yourself care. In this busy season, are you taking time for yourself? (This can be 5 minutes, as many of us have busy lives). If you’re into meditation or yoga, have you done a practice recently? Remember, self care doesn’t have to mean spending money or time. It’s about doing something that’s just for you, that you find fun or relaxing.
I hope these tips help you enjoy your holiday season!