PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM
When many people talk about pregnancy and the postpartum period, they speak of idyllic images of the glowing pregnant woman or the new mother who beams about how much she loves being a mom. In my experience, the reality of pregnancy and postpartum is much more complicated and nuanced.
The truth is, many women don’t like being pregnant. It can be physically uncomfortable, it can be hard to sleep, and often there are worries and anxieties about the upcoming life changes. Sometimes women feel great during part of pregnancy and awful during other parts.
The postpartum period is also more complex than our culture and media talks about. Having a new baby tends to bring out all of your stuff. Tensions will rise in your relationship, even if you guys are generally solid. When you think about how you want to raise your child, you reflect on your own childhood and how you were raised.
If you add a colicy baby, a birth that didn’t go as planned, feeling sad or crying a lot, feeling worried much of time, or having difficulties with feeding your infant, things can get really hard. This doesn’t mean you are a bad mom or that something is wrong with you. What it can mean is that you are needing more support.